Today third grade conducted a self evaluation on their Creative Problem Solving packet. It was a very tough experience. They were very uncomfortable with not being able to reach the highest level. We had lots of discussion regarding why I would have a standard that they could not easily reach. We talked about how people need to know what they don't know so they can grow. We talked about the fact that successful people don't have report cards to measure their ability. Perfectionism was very apparent today.
The good part of perfectionism is that these students have high standards for themselves. The tough part of perfectionism is the highly self critical side where they feel badly about their performance when it is actually a good performance.
Parents you can support your child by having a talk about how to deal with self evaluation and looking at the growth they have achieved instead of the growth still possible.